Not so long ago, I was struck by this amazing realisation, about how we end up being the source and sink of our problems and progressions. If we think about it carefully, everything that happens to us, good or bad, is somehow the result of our own doing. The only thing we need to do is rewind the cassette and replay the part where we laid the foundation for what’s about to come.
We may not realise this but every choice sets up a series of chain reactions, like dominoes falling one over the other. For example, I never thought I’d end up in a software industry working as Senior IT Analyst. I always pictured myself as being a man of machines, but I did nothing in that direction. The moment I appeared for interviews for IT firms, I laid the foundation of my future career aspirations. And today if I’m successful in my career, it goes back to this one single choice – when I chose my career.
On the other side, consider a scenario where we end up feeling not responsible for our consequences, believing that our path is decided by fate and we have no say in it. If something bad happens to us, our human instincts kick in and tells our mind to defend itself. And we start finding something or rather somone to blame. For example, we never bring on the misfortunes on ourselves but we certainly lay the foundations by making one wrong choice along the way. One bad choice may lead to another, then another and then the dominoes start falling.
Thinking positive or negative may not change anything unless backed by right choice. Wrong decisions lead to unfortunate circumstances, good decisions lead to success stories. We can’t control what others do to us, but we can control how we react to them. At the end of the day, we should learn from our past, and be hopeful for a better future. But more importantly, and before everything that comes ahead, we should accept the fact that whatever happens to me, is somewhere, somehow, My Own Doing.